This is just another reminder to nudge you to start noticing the words that you use when talking about your life, your work, a particular situation. Are these words becoming so habitual that they are making a situation stagnate, because that is how you are constantly describing it.
I know about this, because I do this in so many ways. It is the words that I use that are also fuelling the disempowering and very self limiting beliefs that I have embodied – because I am not sure as to what the alternatives could look like and whether there is another possibility that I could actually accomplish.
As you know, words are powerful and our minds respond to them. I was in a fantastic book shop at the weekend, and in walking past the ‘self help’ section I overheard three teenagers laughing and joking at the titles of various books – all the time commenting as to how they needed these books badly because where they were at just seemed confused and not good enough. They were laughing at themselves that they were ‘hopeless’, ‘useless’ and ‘mad’. All this was in jest – but alarmingly real and sad to listen to. Why? Because they were condemning themselves, boxing themselves into a scenario, finding comfort with each other in their supportiveness of feeling out of synch.
How often do we hear of young people enjoying talking about what comes naturally to them, their strengths, their joys and their abilities. How often do WE really acknowledge areas that we are naturally gifted in and excited about. We so easily run ourselves down. We so easily just fall into the habit of laughing at our ‘warts’ though the laughter is wrapping up the sadness and sense of not being good enough.
So, with this in mind, I challenge you this week to mind your language! Was the traffic really ‘horrendous’ or just frustrating. Was the CV that you have just put together ‘absolutely appalling’ or rather a document that you are well able to keep improving upon; are your really ‘disastrous’ when it comes to interviews – or actually able to express yourself quite well and have found a few of the interviews to be even enjoyable!; are you absolutely not able to do what you would really like to be doing – or are you just so scared that you are making excuses not even start.
The words that we use become a part of our automatic story and unless we review and revise this story, we easily imprison ourselves within it. So, the keys to open the door to something new begins with becoming very aware of what you are saying to others and yourself. What are those beliefs that have become so engrained that you are ‘owning’ them unnecessarily.
I challenge you to start enjoying seeing new possibilities for yourself. I challenge you to say things to yourself that are uplifting, mightily encouraging and very very energising. What new ways of being can you start exploring by just using your imagination? How would it feel to see yourself from the perspective of somebody who ‘has your back’, who utterly respects you, you holds you in high esteem. I wonder.
The thesaurus is a useful place to start when learning new words. Enjoy dreaming about a new possibilities!
Have a wonderful week ahead.